Have you ever really wanted to do something but let fear and doubt hold you back?
I know I have – many times. You may not have recognised it as fear and doubt – you may, like me, have rationalised and excused your lack of action in a way that seems entirely reasonable to you. But still, deep down in your core, there is that niggling feeling of not being totally fulfilled. If this sounds familiar read on while I tell you a story of how A Life Worth Living was born.
It happened quite suddenly really. One minute I was sitting in my office typing up my latest report, the next I knew that this was not how I wanted to spend the rest of my working life.
Once upon a time I had dreamed of running my own business. I had trained as a Life Coach and loved it. I had reveled in the holistic approach to supporting others to reach their potential. I had even considered starting my own Life Coaching Company; creating my business name A Life Worth Living. But, as it often did, fear had held me back. Perhaps it was a fear of the unknown, or was it fear of failure? There was always a reason; it was too risky to give up a reliable, well paid job, there was no room in the house for an office. Or the excuses “I’m no good at networking”, ‘I don’t have the knowledge to put together a website”. On and on, a vicious cycle of rationalisation and procrastination.
So instead I moved sideways, much more within my comfort zone. My kids were distraught, they remembered my previous training; long weekends when I was either at work or couldn’t come out of my office for all the studying I had to do. The evenings I was present, I was too distracted or tired to involve myself in their interests and activities.
“Don’t do it Mum”, “Why can’t you just retire”, rang in my ears. Of course, I couldn’t – like most people I had a mortgage, school fees, and the demands of a growing family but importantly I enjoy working. Despite this, right from the start I knew that this was not the right path for me, and I often wondered what my life would have been like if I had become a Coach.
Then, earlier this year (and as it seemed at the time), on impulse, I signed up for a training course in Executive and Organisational Coaching. I loved the energy and the vibe during the course, the camaraderie I shared with the other students when we were ‘put on the spot’ and asked to coach in front of the class. I loved the future-focused, positive, solution-focused approach that is Coaching. I felt alive, motivated and empowered secondary to the coaching I received from other students. I recalled how I had felt 10 years earlier whilst training as a Life Coach and the regret since not following through on this goal.
In that moment, I recognised that I, and I alone, am responsible for my life choices and that it is up to me to stop letting fear and doubt dictate what I do.
I started to put my dream, that had now been almost a decade in the making, into action. I started with small steps, followed by bigger ones, but always with my ultimate goal in mind. Has it been easy? No. Have I got it perfect? No. Am I still making mistakes? Yes. Do I love what I’m doing? Absolutely.
And out of this commitment A Life Worth Living – Personal and Professional Coaching was finally born. No regrets!